The small things matter

Life can get hard and messy quite easily. In one moment, everything is working, but then it´s all fucked up the next morning. This is where the beauty of enjoying little moments steps in.

When I get stressed and overwhelmed by the magnitude of the problem, I step back. How many times has the big thing been solved more easily than I thought? Plus, if you focus on the individual steps, it doesn´t seem like that much of a problem anymore, does it?

It can also be applied to people. If you´re struggling in any kind of relationship, try to focus on the little moments that you normally don´t pay attention to. Maybe it´s the fact that your partner folded the sheets neatly, took an interest in the book you´re reading, or touched your hair in a gentle way.

Nowadays, people are rushed and want to solve things immediately and, ideally, have everything now. Globalisation shows us relationships around the world and forces us to compare and look for mistakes.

The point of this post is that when everything is going downhill, find happiness from the simplest sources possible. Literally smell the flowers. Be happy it´s sunny today, enjoy your cup of coffee, and appreciate its silky and smooth texture. Cherish the smiles of people you pass, and forget the grumpy faces you see.

I´m NOT saying that when your life is full of shitty people, you should be focusing on the good things they do and ignore the rest. I just want to point out we live in a world celebrating grand gestures, telling you that if people don´t go out of their way to appreciate you, you shouldn´t count them amongst your friends. The approach of focusing on the small things people do is applicable ONLY for the people you know that care for you, but are currently in a hard life situation and can´t give you as much as you would like. Life gets messy, and we can get sucked into the motion of it, and our relationships suffer for it, so step back, breathe in, and be grateful.

And when the problems get unbearable, portion them into smaller pieces. When your life feels like a void without joy, start to build it from the little moments of happiness.

Size doesn´t matter, you know? wink wink

Love,

Book and Tea Girl