The hell called finding a job and love

I swear to the gods there´s nothing more humiliating and frustrating than waiting for an invite to an interview or a date. In an ideal world, you would be presented at the beginning of your life with a nice starter pack.

Hi, Viki, welcome to life! Here is your brochure. You are to be a publicist for a lifestyle magazine, and we also added a few other options in case you get bored. As our holiday special, you can try a year living on an Icelandic farm! Oh, and your boyfriend´s name is Paul; he´s an outdoorsy nerd, with whom you´ll have two kids. If you want to add a dog to your package, let us know. Have a nice life!

Now wouldn´t that be great?

For me, being without a job is worse than being without a partner, because I feel that a job is something YOU´VE accomplished, and there´s more you can do about it than in your love life. You have a job that aligns with both your academic and work experience, as well as your personal accomplishments. You can´t exactly land a partner on a perfect CV.

What university did you attend? I went to the Fuckboy Faculty. Oh, you took a semester of Geek and Nerd Studies and an Introduction to Golden Retriever Boyfriends? Nice, I want to try out the Sports Guy Basics!

Yeah, there´s not much you can do to find yourself a partner; it´s a case of being at the right place at the right time.

I´ve always found it sad when people saw themselves as unsuccessful when they didn´t have a partner. They were hardworking students with amazing personalities and numerous hobbies, but they had no one to share a romantic kiss under a blossoming cherry on the 1st of May with, which made them failures in their eyes.

Don´t get me wrong, I think that having a person to share your life with is incredible, and I hope to find it someday. But as I matured, I realised there wasn't much I could do about it, so I took a more passive and relaxed approach.

I feel that you can do more in the area of finding jobs than in finding love, which is why I see it as more of an achievement when you have it. In the era of Tinder, however, it´s not much of a difference between applying for a job and applying for a relationship. Instead of a CV, you have a bio and a couple of photos.

Since it took me four months to find a job last time, and now it´s taking me about a month so far, I´m not saying it´s easy. But I feel more in control when I´m looking for a job. I know exactly what they´re looking for, and I have a good idea of what I´m looking for, so we can discuss it. Then we sign a paper that legally binds us, and boom! It´s done.

Wait.

Doesn´t that sound like a business brother of a wedding?

Just add less emotion, more stability, and less confusion, and it´s basically a romantic relationship!

Never mind then, both are horrible and tiring. They make you doubt yourself, lower your standards, behave beneath you and then end up getting chewed.

This post is getting dark; we need to light up a candle.

I should clarify, I´m an optimist, and I´m an old romantic soul to my core. But an optimist who has been let down a few times, which gave me a drier edge to my humour.

So, however I sound as if I am judging couples and people seeking love, I´m one of you, guys! I also seek love, but that doesn´t mean I won´t bitch about how confusing it is.

And I DESPISE finding a job, I feel like a useless worm!

Wish me luck so the worm doesn´t end up as bait on a fisherman´s hook, but rather worms its way into some nice office.

Love,

Book and Tea Girl