Not like other girls

A sentence that formed my childhood and teenagehood. Let´s get rid of it in the womanhood!

There is a huge pressure on us girls to get along with the crowd but stand out enough to be noticed. I´m sure it also concerns boys, but it´s not like you hear that much; you´re not like other boys. So, let´s stay focused on women.

There´s so much negativity linked to girls that it´s no wonder we try to differentiate ourselves from them. You run like a girl, you throw like a girl, you whine like a girl.

I grew up with a younger brother and competed with him constantly. My childhood friends were all boys, and my two cousins were boys. And how do you prove to them you´re on their level other than acting like a boy?

But even if I wore boys' clothes, didn´t care about getting dirty, played sports, and everything else, my brother still scored better with our cousins, and my two childhood friends preferred their own company, because they were boys. I took it sourly.

I never liked pink dresses or skirts, so I decided to make it my personality. I took pride in having many male friends and tried to show them I was their pal, their bro, their mate. I looked from above (quite literally, since I´m taller than all of them) at girls who behaved like girls, and even though I was more similar to them than I would admit, I always claimed I´m not like other girls.

But by saying that, I WAS like other girls.

Even though that girl is still somewhere inside me and decides to rear her head from time to time, I have slowly got rid of my hate for my feminine needs. I no longer pretend I don´t mind getting dirty if I have nice clothes on, I love wearing skirts, yapping with my female friends, buying pink stuff, sparkly make-up, and I do get scared about breaking a nail.

It hurts like hell, I really don´t get the people who made it a negative feminine trait. My 30-year-old masculine coach makes a bigger fuss than a girl when it happens to him.

I love how lately people started to take a look at sayings like you´re a pussy and say how actually being compared to a pussy should be a compliment. You ain´t got an idea how powerful pussies can be!

So in conclusion, I´m still a tomboy, but now without fear of owning my gender. And I´m here to rip that sentence out of every girl´s life.

Love,

Book and Tea Girl